Mama, I know.
You’re struggling.
Your little one doesn’t sleep like everyone else’s does. Your marriage is falling apart. Your teenager’s attitude is grating against your last nerve. You can’t get your kids to do their chores, no matter how hard you try. Getting dinner on the table is impossible every night – you just don’t have time. Breastfeeding isn’t going well. You feel like you’ve lost yourself and you wish you had your identity back. Your child’s struggling in school. You can’t lose weight. You can’t make ends meet. Your three-year-old won’t potty train. Your son is having trouble with his peers. Your picky eater won’t touch a vegetable. A health issue won’t resolve. Your daughter’s defiance has you struggling to find solutions.
And solutions, we have! If there’s one thing that the motherhood community is exceptional at, it’s fixing things. As moms, it’s kind of what we do.
You just need to…swaddle! Cry it out! Be consistent! Implement {fill in the blank} discipline strategy! Make date nights! Use essential oils! Do food prep! Talk to your husband/your girlfriends/the teacher/the parents! Give more quality time to your kids! Never serve alternate foods! Try the three-day potty training method! Institute tough love! Quit carbs! Clip coupons! Find a hobby!
But mama, hear this:
I know it hurts. I know how awful and frustrating it is when it seems like everyone else’s magical fix fails you. I understand how isolating it is when one trick fixed their issue but yours is stubborn and the solution is complicated and elusive.
Hang in there, mama. They mean well. They really do.
But the solution is rarely one-size-fits-all. Just because it doesn’t work for you doesn’t make you a failure or mean that there’s something wrong with you, or your parenting, or your kids. You were chosen to walk through this life, however it may look right now, and you were chosen as the perfect parent for your child.
I know that doesn’t lessen your struggle or solve your problem, but I hope it helps you understand one thing.
You’re not alone.
Believe me, the solution is not one-size-fits-all. You’ll figure it out. After all, you were created perfectly to do so.
