Now is the time to say goodbye to whatever we didn’t accomplish last year and hello to all the things we aspire to this year. But that automatically seems to set us up for failure. There have been years I have set lists of resolutions, years I have ignored the idea and years where I simply just said I would remember to breathe. This year, I compiled a list of things I am not going to do in 2020.
- Regularly meal prep. The word regular is important here. This way I will feel accomplished if I sometimes meal prep instead of feeling like I failed on a goal.
- Find patience in all situations. Moms, sometimes we lose our cool. Let’s not fool ourselves that 2020 will be the year we somehow we find it adorable when our kids get slime in the carpet for the 9th time or endearing when our kids come close to killing each other in the car every day after school. Lose your cool, find it again, repeat.
- Get to my goal weight. At this point, I honestly don’t even know what my goal weight would be. My high school weight wouldn’t be a goal, it would literally be impossible. We are moms. We have grown and birthed children. Let’s stop trying to be something we were a decade (ok or decades) ago.
- Weekly date nights. If this is something you can achieve, that’s fantastic. But for my husband and I, attempting a weekly date night is going to fizzle out by February. Not because it wouldn’t be enjoyable but because it’s just not realistic. If we end up with a monthly date night, I will feel good and not like I have failed my husband.
- Pick up a new hobby. Ok I get that this one sounds negative. If you are at a stage in life where you can find a new hobby, do it! But I am not going to fool myself that I am going to all of a sudden take up crocheting or aerial yoga.
There are things I hope to do in 2020 and I will post more about that. One of those things is health and fitness related which would be basically reigniting something I used to be passionate about but have put it on somewhat of a back burner lately.
But it’s important to focus on the word hope when I say things I hope to do in 2020. I am not going to set myself up with unrealistic goals or lists that just end up staring at me.
A new year is a fresh start and I am feeling good about what is ahead. I’d encourage you to make a short list of things you are not going to fool yourself into thinking you will do instead of all the things it would be nice to accomplish. Or maybe a combination of the two.
Happy New Year!
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