When I was younger, I wasn’t much for dating. And now, as a married adult and mother of two, I struggle with developing close, authentic, real friendships. As I reflect on these two things I’m starting to realize that they require similar skill-sets. So today, I give you – the top ten parallels between making mom-friends and dating.
1. I’d rather be pursued. It’s so much easier than putting yourself out there.
2. The awkwardness of the first time you invite them for a {play}date. Please don’t reject me!
3. Knowing when to share your true feelings. Have we known each other long enough for me to tell her what I really think of natural childbirth?
4. Inviting them over without cleaning your house first. Will I scare them off? Will they still like me?
5. Meeting their friends (or, in this case, husband). You prep yours in advance – BE ON YOUR BEST BEHAVIOR!
6. Deciding your relationship is strong enough that you can count on each other. The babysitter canceled and I have an appointment! I need help…NOW!
7. Navigating the first fight. Is this over?
8. The point when you can make yourself at home in their kitchen. I know there are sippy cups in one of these cabinets…
9. You can hardly tell where your family ends and theirs begins. You can discipline their kids and they can discipline yours without fear of upsetting the other.
10. Suddenly, you have traditions and you wonder how that happened. See you at the park on Wednesday like always! When are we getting together for our annual cookie decorating party?
What do you think? Did I miss any parallels? How do you navigate the process of making mom friends?
Kristina blogs on allmomdoes each Tuesday. Read more!
